The Usual Rules

The Usual Rules is a young adult fiction novel by Joyce Maynard. Published in 2004, it was among the first post 9/11 fictional works to directly involve the attacks on the World Trade Center in 2001.

Wendy is thirteen years old and living in Brooklyn with her mother and stepfather Josh. One morning, her mother explains that Wendy should spend some time out West with her biological father, who has had very little to do with her life thus far. Wendy leaves the house annoyed and goes to school. When she arrives, her teacher announces that the World Trade Center has been hit by two airplanes. Wendy is horrified because her mother works in one of the towers. One by one, parents come to pick up her classmates at the school, and eventually her stepfather, and brother, Louie, pick her up. Her mother is not with them.

The three of them wait day after day waiting to hear from Wendy’s mother, but they hear nothing. They presume she has died in the attack and are overtaken with grief. Wendy’s biological father shows up unannounced and offers to take Wendy back with him to California. Josh is overwhelmed at the prospect of raising two children by himself, so he agrees to let Wendy go with him.



Wendy uses the move to small-town California as an opportunity to reinvent her character. Rather than be the diligent student she was in Brooklyn, she skips school and reads books in the local bookstore. She meets Violet, a single mother only a few years older than herself. She also befriends the bookstore owner Alan, who offers reading suggestions.

Her father, who works in town as a carpenter, introduces Wendy to the people in his life as well. She meets his girlfriend Carolyn who lives on a cactus farm. He takes Wendy to San Francisco to meet her more well-to-do grandmother. While in town, Wendy leaves her hotel room late at night and wanders the city. She meets a young skateboarder named Todd who is a runaway looking for his older brother. She brings him back to her hotel room so he can shower and gives him her dad’s address in case he comes back that way in his travels.

During the Christmas holiday, her grandmother passes away. Her father returns to San Francisco to attend the funeral but Wendy stays in town. She spends more time with Carolyn and Alan, who brings his autistic son to dinner. Violet also comes with her baby. Her father returns with a surprise hitchhiker—Todd—who was coming to town to see Wendy. They begin a romantic fling before Todd moves on to Colorado, where he thinks his brother may be.



Wendy’s father and Carolyn confront her about skipping school but acknowledge that it may be necessary to cope with the loss of her mother. Meanwhile, Josh tells Wendy that Louie is not doing well in the absence of their mother. He’s too young to understand that she’s gone. Wendy also learns that her mother’s good friend Kate has been seeing Josh. Kate ends the relationship and moves to Hawaii, but not before seeing Wendy in California to personally apologize.

Todd checks in and says he’s found his brother in Colorado and that they’re both working. Violet decides to put her child up for her adoption, a decision that rattles Wendy and Carolyn who have grown fond of the baby.

As a birthday gift, Wendy’s father takes her to San Francisco and Yosemite National Park. During the trip, he proposes that Wendy finish the school year in California before deciding where to live permanently. She’s upset by the prospect of this choice. Josh sends her a birthday package including a gift her mother bought before she died. Wendy waits to open it.



At the end of the school year, Wendy decides to move back to New York City to be with Josh and Louie. When she opens the gift her mother bought her, it’s a plane ticket to see her father in California.

Critics have applauded The Usual Rules for its easy readability and engaging thirteen-year-old voice. Maynard’s unusual choice to avoid quotation marks to set apart dialogue from the rest of the narrative may be off-putting to some. The book’s target audience, now too young to remember the September 11 attacks, learns about the event and the emotional toll it took on a personal and national level. The terrorist attacks are not the main focus, however, and are only the backdrop for a classic coming-of-age story about dealing with loss, the relativity of pain, and the importance of seeing past people’s faults.

A criticism the book has received is that it may be exploiting a national tragedy for the author’s personal gain, but most critics agree that the fiction writing is honest, sensitive, and touching.