Gray examines the emotional intricacies inherent in romantic connections, particularly from a woman’s point of view. He suggests that women undergo emotional fluctuations akin to waves, cresting with feelings of affection and ebbing during moments of discontent. These emotional tides should not be viewed as issues needing resolution, but as natural rhythms to be acknowledged. Gray says that at the apex of their emotional surges, women possess the capacity to dispense affection generously; however, in the troughs, there arises a necessity for emotional reorganization.

Instead of trying to rectify these emotional dips, Gray counsels men to provide authentic support. He stresses: “When a woman moves into her well […] it is not a problem to be solved or fixed, but an opportunity to support her with unconditional love” (122). Defying some misconceptions, these periods of low emotion are not indicative of a perpetual struggle, but are intermittent intervals that call for empathy and comprehension.

Gray also discusses the detrimental effects of repressing emotions. He cautions: “When negative feelings are suppressed, positive feelings become suppressed as well, and love dies” (129). He suggests that women require personal space during these downswings, and says that men can sometimes misread expressions of distress from their partners as calls for immediate solutions.